Disconnect to connect

Disconnect to connect

- 5 mins
Written by Antal János Monori

Living in the Digital era with awareness

Living in the 21st century, we cannot really imagine a life without technology anymore, even if we would like to. From communication to grocery shopping — all of these activities involve technology either in a direct or indirect way. People who are tech-savvy have one more extra need for technology — it is basically their drug.

People in the above-mentioned category usually have a lower attention span, they over-consume information and usually do way too much multitasking. All of this create this feeling of constantly being connected with everyone, anywhere.

Just by walking down on a busy street, or going to a local restaurant, you will see how many people are focused on their smartphones meanwhile having a company with them. This is simply ridiculous! Being connected has only one meaning nowadays, which is beign able to access the internet — anytime, anywhere. In my vocabulary, being connected simply means being present and appreciating the present moment.

We tend to lose focus pretty easily with the present moment, and we usually dive into a pool of social networks. The first step in overcoming this problem is to eliminate redundancy. It is understandable that you need to have a network of people, with whom you can share things and earn social currency, the main problem is, that we are usually part of many more. Many people use some or all of the following social networks: Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Instagram, Foursquare, Snapchat, Vine and so on. Try asking yourself the following questions: How much time do I spend sharing things on each of those networks? Do I really need to over-share? How many friends do you have in common between those networks? The first step in becoming more self-aware is to eliminate as much redundancy as possible. If you come across a person, who asks you whether you are on xy social network or not, and your answer is no, do not feel the urge to become a member! Stick to your preferred place and do not fall back in the same trap as in the beginning!

Becoming more self-aware can be achieved by losing some old and creating some new habits. Some of the rituals that helped me become more focused and connected were the following:

The list above was not meant to be an exact step-by-step guide on how to become more self-aware and present, but rather an example of things you could do. You have to experiment on your own with the rituals and habits you want to practice. Find the one that suits your personality and your lifestyle the best. Be open about it!

So, next time when you see someone getting disconnected in your presence, help them out by engaging them in a converstaion and raise their awareness on the situation.


Call-to-action: Tell me what is your single one ritual/habit that you practice each day — which makes you happier and more connected. Contact me on Twitter @hifromantal.


Disclaimer: This blog-post was originally submitted to Medium, here, on December 2, 2013.

Header photo by unsplash-logo Debby Hudson on Unsplash.

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